Relationship breakups are big thing in the lives of those that have it happening right now.
It has happened right through the ages, starts with teenagers and goes through to the latter years of one’s life, but there are several types of breakups, some far more serious than others.
In this article I want to focus on the more serious relationship breakups, the ones that have happened after years together and most probably with children from the union. I hope it will be of benefit to my readers.
There are a lot of articles that tell us we must find the cause of the break up and then fix it so we can get back together and be happy again. Sounds easy doesn’t it? Well I am here to tell you it is not easy.
So let’s find the cause of the relationship breakup; in 98% of serious breakups there is only one of two causes, in a lot of cases it may be both of them. They are lack of love and or lack of money. The two greatest needs for the human species are food and reproduction, as soon as or when we are denied these there is the beginning of trouble.
Let’s take them one at a time.
Lack of Love… Let’s call a spade a spade shall we? Relationship breakups almost always start in the bedroom. One partner needs sex more than the other, the heady days of early love does not last, and maybe children come along and call for more attention, perhaps overwork make for tiredness. The reasons for not wanting enough sex to suit your partner can be many. But the fact remains that it causes arguments developing into outright rows. It causes resentment and depression and couples start to drift apart. In a lot of cases they drift apart without being conscience of it.
Men and women don’t go with someone else because they are better looking; they go because they think they are going to get something they are not getting at home. Discontented women are easy prey for a charming man and “available” looking women will have no trouble in getting a man that is not being loved at home. This is fact; it’s happening all of the time.
Lack of Money… It is amazing how closely related these to causes of relationship breakup are. There can be heaps of reasons for a shortage of money; retrenchment, having to borrow for some unusual reason, arrival of children and the list can go on.
Whatever the reason in most all cases it causes tension, arguments can start easy, and sometimes one or the other are blamed. Then, can you guess it? Of course you can…Back to the bedroom saga. When money problems come in the door love flies out of the window.
So what do we do about these two very big problems, if allowed to continue, if allowed to fester they will break your relationship/marriage.
There is one simple action that must be taken…Communication…Communication…Communication, You must talk about it, believe me there is an answer to be found if you discuss it. Not angrily, not just thinking of you but communicating with each other, listening and discussing each problem.
Problems are just that, and can be fixed one at a time by communicating with the one you love.
The charming man or the “available”woman we spoke of earlier is rarely what they seem, probably having come from broken relationships themselves. If you love your partner he/she are the best by far so communicate at all levels, never be afraid to talk.
There is help available online about relationship breakups by very experienced people that have been through these bad times. Never be afraid or too shy to seek them out if the problems are a little hard to solve. Solving them together can strengthen your love for one another
Read helpful advice about wedding favours – please read this webpage. The times have come when proper information is truly only one click of your mouse, use this possibility.
Tags: Relationship Breakup